Dating a man who is divorced with kids
"Many men have openly shared with me that they'd love to 'make a marriage right this time.'" Andrea, 47, who met her husband on Christian Mingle.com, experienced this phenomenon first-hand. "Many marriages fail because men didn't realize that they wanted a woman with certain traits the first time around," says relationship expert April Masini,author of "Now they do, and you benefit from a man who's clear on this."Divorcés' straightforwardness can save you a lot of dating guesswork, adds clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph D."They may be more upfront about their limitations and strengths resulting in less game-playing and time wasted in relationships that won't work."6. Consummating a marriage gives divorced guys a leg up on pure bachelors in the bedroom.
"Our previous marriages and subsequent divorces taught us what's important to fight for and how not to sweat the small stuff," she says. "If nothing else, they may have learned appropriate bedroom chivalry: Ladies first," says professional matchmaker and dating coach Karla Moore.
"Divorced men may be done having kids after one marriage," so if you don't want any, he won't push the issue unlike some single, childless men, she says.
"They don't shy away from a conversation about relationships, marriage, love and intimacy." Adds Bizzoco, "Even though his previous marriage didn't work out, dating shows he's willing to open himself up to love and that he's interested in something serious again."4. Men naturally want to "fix" things and problem solve, life coach and dating expert Brooke Lewis points out, which can translate into a post-divorce desire for a successful new relationship.
Just remind yourself that she is part of his reality that you can’t change.
If your guy is newly separated and in the process of getting the divorce finalized, you might want to check out Dating Advice: You, Him, and Not Quite Ex Wife!
It may be extremely difficult for him to learn to trust again. In most cases, his ex-wife is someone who will – in some way, shape or form! Whether they share kids, he pays her alimony or simply because she was a large part of his life…you have to accept the fact she is likely to show up from time-to-time.
Don’t get upset when she’s around (whether physically or in his thoughts).